Just
sitting down to my first cup of coffee as I write this. And it has been a
chaotic day so far. Thanksgiving is up in the air. All I really care about is
spending time with Pam and my dad on that day though. But the other night was a
good night since I had a good phone conversation with my dad. As I have the two
times before that, which is a big step forward for us as we have been working
on bonding more once more. And we’ve both been making progress lately, which
makes me smile.
As
most of you are aware me and my dad didn’t have a great relationship when I was
growing up. But he started changing when his grandson was born. And even more
so after he met Pam. And since then we have been really working on our
relationship. It is not all sunshine and roses though. But we are working on
it. And the fact that he is willing to work on it means a lot to me. It helps
inspire me to do better and be a better person in general. Plus, I’ve noticed
some of his traits coming out in me as I take a new path in life. I am becoming
a workaholic like him to an extent. But trying to keep it balanced with a
social life. Though that is not always easy. It helps me understand his
struggles with it.
As
I understand him better it helps me communicate with him easier. We still have
differences don’t get me wrong. But we can agree to disagree for the most part.
I’m always glad when I hear he is proud of me, and it helps that he supports me
in my college career. It really does mean a lot to me. I look forward to the
holidays because that is when I get to see him normally. Hopefully as 2016
comes into being I will get to see him more. I know he works hard and has
little time off, but I am willing to work with him and his schedule to get some
extra tome with him. Unlike me he is not a multi-tasker but I can do homework and
talk to him at the same time. I’m pretty sure he can handle watching NASCAR and
talking to me at the same time as well. So it is something we can share in our
own unique way.
I’ll
have to run that idea by him when I see him or talk to him next time. Would be
good to have a bunch of Sundays lined up to share with him. And he is welcome
to come visit me as well, especially after I get a new television. That way he
can watch things here as well on a nice big screen. Now that I am not ashamed
of how my house looks. Before I used to dread him coming over because my house
was a mess, but now that the house stays clean on a regular basis there is
nothing to dread.
He
is welcome to come over anytime and play cards. I might even get him to let me
teach him Magic: The Gathering or some other tabletop games. It would be nice
having someone in the family that likes to play tabletop games besides me.
Could make a family night out of it. I know I keep going off on tangents, but
as I am writing this I am thinking of new and innovative ways I can spend more
time with my dad.
Though
I know I have to be careful not to overdo it at first. I’m just thinking of now
and down the road at the same time. I’ve lost a lot of time with him and I want
to make up for it as much as I can. I know we both had to go through changes to
get to the place we needed to be to form a bond. Just wish it hadn’t taken so
long. But things take as long as they much for whatever reason they must. I’m
just glad we are starting to bond more now. And I am looking forward to
tomorrow despite all the drama that has happened and it looks like I will be
meeting Pam’s son as well.
As
usual I have gotten long winded, but hopefully my dad reads this and smiles. I
hope he knows I love him and always will. As for me I am going to get something
more to drink and read a bit. And as usual you can leave comments and questions
below. If you want my posts to go directly to your inbox put your email where
it says follow by email. I hope everyone has a Happy
Thanksgiving and I will be posting tomorrow. *Tips his hat and walks out the
door heading for the kitchen. *
Aww this great have a Happy thanksgiving buddy!
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