I was given hope in people once more Monday when I
saw a video on bullying. It showed people actually standing up for a young kid
being bullied instead of just standing by and doing nothing. It was inspiring
and we need more people to do this. No more of this, kids will be kids. And, no
that doesn’t mean hate on the bullies either they are most likely suffering
from low self-esteem. But, confront them on their behavior and when they see it
is wrong show them a different path.
It is not about stomping the bully down in shame because
that is another form of bullying as well. We have to lift the bullied out of
obscurity as well as change the bully so that they don’t feel the need to
bully. As most of you once know I was bullied and fought back against all
bullies. That approach didn’t work too well. It was a short term solution to a
bigger problem. And while my bullies matured not all bullies do.
We want bullies to grow up to be productive members of
society and not just adult bullies as some do. Getting to the root of why a
bully is a bully is essential to them growing up to be a more peaceful individual
in the long term. Some of the causes have been seen as low self-esteem,
relatives that display a bad message to them, media messages that deliver a bad
message to them. And, there are more being discovered every day.
I can’t point my finger and say this is the definitive cause
for sure. Each individual case of bullying is a case by case situation. And,
one has to tackle it that way. But, it can’t be just let to happen. Nor should
the victim be blamed as has happened in some cases. No one asks to be bullied
and blaming them for being bullied is saying just that. This is the 21st
Century I would have figured by now we would have stamped out bullying and
become more enlightened than we have been acting so far in this century.
This problem though cannot just be approached by stranger
and the victims. Parents and administrators have to get involved as well as the
mental health community to try and help. The whole community as a whole need to
step up as I have called for before. Kids both bullies and bullied are our
future. And, some of them are going to be in nursing homes taking care of us
someday. Now that you have digested that thought, wouldn’t it be better to
address the bullying mentality while they are young.
I know I think it would than wait till they get older and
harder to manage as well as more set in their ways. But, I will step down off
my soapbox for now. And, I do have more hope for humanity despite the lecture.
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*Tips his hat and walks out the door. *
good one buddy!
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