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Sunday, May 21, 2017
We've Moved
For those wondering where we had vanished to. I thought I had put up a post saying that we were moving. Apparently, I didn't. The new address of my blog is http://mylittleoffice.wordpress.com. I hope you will follow me there as you have here. *Tips his hat and walks out the door*.
Thursday, April 6, 2017
An Honest Look At Me And Smoking
I’ve made every excuse in the book for not taking this
disease head on. I’m allergic to the match and of course there is the problem
of the pill giving me mental problems. But, I finally found a support group
that inspires me to be stronger than the disease. They get it and me as a
smoker. It makes me feel empowered to be able to quit. Even as I have been
powerless against this. Yet God has stood by me and guided me to this point and
not given up on me. I thank Him for that. Warning I will be crying a lot while
writing this so bear with me.
I used to be a part of the anti-smoking movement. I had
one cigarette and no problem at 17, that got me a bit cocky I think. Then at 18
I was having a really bad day. And, someone who I think was a friend, but didn’t
realize the harm they were doing gave me six cigarettes in an hour. Bam I was
hooked. I tried the patch soon after. But, it was so itchy and it didn’t do
anything for my cravings. I’m not sure why other than the fact I was surrounded
by smokers in my environment at the time. And, the nicotine demon in me wanted
more and more. It always does it can never get enough.
I am the chain smoking type when I can be. After all that
is how I started out. And yes, I am a nicotine addict, but I also know that it
does not make me a bad person. It just means I have a flaw in me. I grew up
seeing smoking everywhere in my life. Not just in the family but among my peers
as well. My family told me not to start that is was bad for me, but at the same
time other messages were sent to me as well. And, when I get into that bad zone
of thinking I am just going to do what I want to do. And, I was already
thinking I had proven them wrong about marijuana at that point.
I was also an angry young man into my mid-twenties. Compared
to now my anger was nuclear weapon level. Now I am a bit more patient and
understand and sometimes that works against me when I should blow up and kick
someone’s ass. I was like a raging demon and that might come back I fear
without nicotine. But, I have to remember I have learned new coping skills and
grown wiser in my years. I also understand my conditions better as well. And, I
have learned to use my writing as an outlet for my emotions as you have all
seen. Though it still scares me since I don’t want to be that angry person
again. But, I also don’t want to be a smoker anymore either.
It has caused me to age and have trouble walking. I used
to be able to walk all of Portland, ME no problem with a full book bag. Now I
am lucky to make it to the local gas station and back in an hour it seems. It
is probably part of the reason I don’t go more places since there are so many
places you can’t smoke. Every time I do go out I am looking for the smoking
spots instead of really enjoying what is around me it feels like. Feeling the
craving hitting as a movie is ending so I might miss a special ending at the
end of the credits. Or not bringing my laptop with me someplace I should
because what if I need to go smoke.
I turn into a beggar for money or even just a smoke if I
run out towards the end of the month. Those around me know it is true. I don’t
like that version of me either. I get so bad I offer to sell of things sacred
to me. It’s time to put the brakes on and get off of this train. To be honest I
have better things to do with my life than putting a flaming tube of paper and
tobacco in my mouth every few minutes. That is time spend reading or writing or
at the game table lost. Who knows I might even get some of my hair back. I know
wishful thinking. But, it is time to stop slowly committing suicide and turn
towards life.
I have a plan and I will let you in on it tonight. But,
first I have some work that I owe a few people. And, there is finalizing it.
But, the date is set in stone for April 7th, 2017. That is the date for me and let me give some
advice to those out there still making excuses about why they haven’t quit. I will
grant you it is to a point your choice when you quit though more the drug’s
hold on you. Take a hard look in the mirror and ask yourself what you are getting
for your money. And, what you are losing for your money. Is there something
else you would rather be spending that money on?
For me I plan to invest the money in gaming and reading
as well as reading on writing. And, when I learn what my son wants to be when
he grows up I will invest in books on that. I think my cat, Whoopster was also
requesting just now that some of the money be spent on stuff for him as well.
As he just mugged me for attention while writing this part of the post. But, I
plan to make it a yearly thing like tax returns. More bang for the buck that
way.
This is a testimony to myself and you as to how powerless
and to what a monster I can be when the disease takes hold. And, it will and
will always be a part of my life. So, I will distract myself when need be. Have
fun as much as I can with life. Enjoy what I do for work. Pray when I need to
to God. And, be nicotine free starting April 7th of this year. I
feel cleansed sort of and if I need to do it again to get to being smoke free
for good so be it.
Tuesday, April 4, 2017
Picking Myself Up And Realizing Some Things
It is a better day today, and my head is back where I
need it to be on my shoulders squarely. Yes, I made it a day without a
cigarette, but the quality of life was crap. So, I went out for a walk to find a
cigarette this morning. I found a few interesting places I want to visit more
as well as some cool people. I also realized a few things. And, it helped me
start planning going forward. I’m still behind on school, but going to work
hard today to get caught up on it. This last week has been a learning
experience as well as a growing experience, and I needed that.
I have stood on other people’s shoulders for too long and
not put myself as a priority for too long as well. I’ve also been a hermit for
far too long. So, things have got to change don’t they and they have started
to. For one I am looking at a smaller place that is easier for me to manage. I’m
also trying to quit smoking again a step at a time with a support group. So,
far slow progress on the quitting smoking. I’m also trying to get everything
hooked up in my room right, but need help with that. And, I won’t lie zI have
had some screw ups along the way. And, to those I have hurt and ade to feel
cast aside I am sorry.
I will be going out more after this week and visiting
more people. Right now, I just need to be alone with my thoughts and planning
as well as working on my writing and school work. Along with cleaning for this
inspection. That is where my head has to me for this week. I have a couple of
things I am planning to do for me in general today like going to a writer’s
meeting and trying to get back into that.
I also realized a few things about my ex yesterday when
she decided to be an impatient bitch and threaten me. First off, she left here
making it seem like she was coming back and then texted me that she wasn’t and
told me to pawn the guns. Proves to me she is a coward. Or that she was afraid
of having second thoughts, but too late for that now. That door is closed
because of what she did yesterday. I also sold the guns to a pawn shop like the
text said to and with the clearance of the police and after getting in hot
water with my landlord. And, sweetheart I don’t know what fantasy world you
live in, but those guns don’t cover a $700.00 phone luckily, I can make
payments on it.
Second, I have my doubts that you ever truly loved me in
the first place. But, you did bring me some happiness and pleasure I will grant
you that. And, while it was nice that you ran the house. It helped me realize
that this place is too big for me and for me to get a start running a place I
need a smaller place. But, it doesn’t make up for all the hurt you caused or
the harassment of my friends and family. So yes, you will be getting a certified
letter in the mail giving you 30 days from when you sign to come get your stuff
or it is mine to do as I see fit with, which is legal. I’m done being your
little pet that does what you want. You ripped my heart out of my chest and
then yesterday stomped on it. You proved me wrong. You are a manipulative bitch.
I bet you didn’t tell Joe that we fooled around the day you left. Or how you
promised me you were coming back. Or how you told me you loved me and missed me
all the way there.
I can still go anywhere I want in the country with no
problem even after this, but you are hated in Maine with a passion. And,
probably a few other states. You pissed off a lot of people with how you
treated me. You told me how respected and cherished I ma and forgot it
yourself. What were you smoking when you decided to use me. Must have been some
harsh stuff to do something this stupid. You alienated so many people it is not
even funny. You had a great support group and you threw it all away. You had it
made and you just threw it all away and I still don’t get why after everything
you told me and the way you acted here. But, I have heard some things and that
makes e wonder what Joe is thinking.
And, if you do decide to come get your stuff I am having
a cop present as well. Just so there can be a neutral witness to everything
that takes place. I’m not playing games with you and not having anything taken
out of proportion. I don’t know who you are like I thought I did. I have two
different stories of who you are and what I have witnessed and trying to figure
it all out still. I did tell those that spoke against you how you were here.
Only because it was fair and right. I am angry at you yes, but there is still
love in my heart for what you brought into my life and the things you made me
realize. And, in time I will forgive you, though not take you back ever. Like I
said to you before I will never hate you. It is your actions I am mad at and
upset with. And, there have been a lot
of doubts caused because of them. I will get my answers from God in time. He is
funny like that making one wait till they are ready for the answer. For when
they are ready to be able to handle the truth. And, sometimes they have the
answers they just have to work on coming to terms with it.
I’ll move on eventually, but for right now going to enjoy
the single life and see what God brings into my life. He just better remember
what a complex individual he created and helped mold. But, for now going to
focus on me. I will still be here for others cause this part of me but the primary
focus is on me. I’ve got some stuff for me to do and some repairing to do in my
life. Even being an ambivert I have made
some bad choices and I need to fix the ones I can. It means revamping my schedule
a bit, but it can be done.
So, I am laying out three goals for the next week. One
get the process of finding a smaller place into motion. 2 Get back to church.
3. Get out more and 4 get back on track with school. These are the things I
think I need to do this week. And, already working on these as well. And
hopefully on Saturday I can report them going full swing well. I think I met
set daily goals here as well. And, weekly goals at the beginning of the week.
Be on the lookout for a post later today Diary
of a Broken Father by Sylvia Stein. In the meantime,
the short review is go out and get a copy. You won’t be sorry. It has inspired
me that is for sure.
But, I have rambled on more than enough for one post.
Feel free to leave questions and comments below as always. As for me I have a
midterm to finish and I was given the perfect topic his morning to write on. I
was also reminded that suicide is the easy way out at least for me. And, that
staying the course and taking the hard way is always more rewarding for me. I
can’t speak to others, but I will always do my best to help them. *Tips his
hat, see a door that shouldn’t be open, closes it, and walks out the door*.
Saturday, April 1, 2017
Let’s Try This Again
Now that I have had my morning cigarette and something
substantial to eat after two days I think I can write something without
sounding like a raging lunatic now. But, there are major changes happening this
week and starting next week around here. So, I was a bit stressed out and as
usual took it out in writing. I’m also pissed at my ex with the mess she has
left behind for me to deal with and put me in. But, that is being dealt with.
Now after a hot shower and a smoke and something that is supposed to be food.
What do you expect from a gas station. I am feeling revived and ready to face
the challenges head on. I feel more alive too after the morning walk. I also
need to get my room back in order as well.
I think after my sister leaves I am going to look for a
smaller place though. This place is just too big for me and overwhelms me. I
have somewhat of an idea of what I want, but not sure how to get it yet. But, I think because of current events I
should look for what I can find that best fits it. I got a couple of places in
mind to look for it. Just was thinking I wouldn’t be preparing so soon. But,
you know fate has a way of making things happen. And, I am going to make sure
my sister is alright of course, but I do have to think about my future as well.
I know she will be alright on her own and she is planning
to move anyways. And, even as I plan to do what I want to I get chewed out for it
it feels like. Trying to figure out if I can run my own life or if it is always
about what family wants. I kind of know how my mother feels now. I try to limit
how much I rely on her and make it so it is when she is available and can do
things. I feel like I could spend more time with the family if I moved as well
cause of these damned stairs.
And honestly, I do want out of here. I shouldn’t have
gotten my sister into here to be honest. It isn’t the best place for her. But,
she was homeless and breaking down. And, she missed her therapy dog, Daisy. I
thought giving her a roof over her head would help, and it has. And, I love my
sister, and it is not that living with her seems like it is going to be that
bad now. Minus a few little quirks, I have on choices she makes, but we will
deal with that.
Just the environment feels toxic to me and not because of
my sister. It is just all around me. I’ve been in this same neighborhood too
long. I need to be someplace that deals better with me and I have can have a fresh
start. Where I don’t have baggage. I feel like I am expected to be like my mom
here, and I am not her. Mom says get tough with them but I feel like if I do
that it will just get me evicted and then I can’t go anywhere really. I feel
stuck between a rock and a hard place. But, I keep praying to God asking Him to
guide me and give me strength.
I don’t have an answer yet except to move. But, that has
its own issues too. And to anyone upset about this blog, try to understand this
is my place to think out loud. I am more open about things than other people
around me are. It is part of who I am. But, I will never throw the family under
the bus here. I will be honest, but fair. And, most of it will have to do with
my past. I know to be careful with personal information online. But this is my
therapy, because honestly it helps better than anything I do in a room with a
person.
To anyone with doubts I love my sister and will help her
in any way I can. But, at the same time I have to do something to change my
environment for me. That is basically how I feel. And, like my mom probably
feels at times with us kids I feel like my feelings aren’t being heard or given
merit. I don’t know how to put it right. But, we do take her for granted at
times and that is wrong of us. I wish I knew how to repay her for all her
kindness and patience with us. As well as all the help, she keeps giving us. I
know we are a pain in the butt. I love my mom and I have something special
planned for her for Mother’s Day. Not saying here since she reads this. I love
you mom and I thank you for everything you have done and do for me. I just can’t
carry the world like I thought I could. I’m trying, but I can’t. I’m sorry for
failing as a son. I’m sorry I screwed up
so badly. All I wanted was happiness and to be loved like I was loving myself
and it blew up in my face.
Now I just feel like a failure and I want my own hole to
crawl into for a bit and just be responsible for me, well and the cat. He is
good company and helps. I was trying to do good like you taught me and ruined
everything. I try to be strong and was having a good day. I know you and Ami
are having it rough so I tried to keep being strong, but it is hard at times
like now. And, here I can let it out and it helps. Though it is still there it
gets released if that makes any sense at all. And, I am not afraid to let the
world see I have feelings. Yes, it means I am more vulnerable and I am ok with that
in a way. Not sure how to explain it. Something to do with how I write is all I
can sum it up to. Mind you I just remembered I hadn’t saved in like 600 words,
oops.
I swear I am on a rollercoaster today. During the day, I
am up and tonight I am down. Still working hard on everything including my
room. Just it is like one minute I am doing great and the net I am breaking
down crying. I feel like mother nature. One minute it is sunny the next it is
snowing. Should be rain this time of year but no instead we get snow. I swear
it is like if a guy could get a period I am having the emotional issues that
come with it. I’ll be ok though I have a great family that supports me and
friends that are there for me. My mom is my main support and hopefully she can
understand all of this to get what I am going through. Though I hate that she
has to see me like this after she just went through a bad move. And, I understand her needing to make herself
a priority and I want her to know that there are others that are there for me
as I go through this. So, when I put my normal thing about comments make
yourselves heard loud and clearly for my mom please. Reassure her that her
little boy isn’t left alone in the dark.
Because right now I have been sucked back into that dark
space, and I am trying like hell to get out of it. I really am, but I just end
up crying more again. I just feel like a failure right now. Something tells me
I shouldn’t, but I do. Now my sister just came in and grabbed me in a hug and I
broke down and it helped a lot. Still give a shout out for my mom’s piece of
mind. I am still not fully out of the woods but getting there. The hug was a
start.
Now I have rambled long enough for one day, don’t worry I
will be safe. Feel free to leave questions and comments as always and please
leave comments letting my mom know what I have for a support system. As for me
I am going to do some cleaning, some schoolwork, and some reading. *Tips his
hat and walks out the door not feeling so hot*.
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